New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Death isn’t the most appetizing topic, but contemplating mortality can be a massive source of motivation, perspective, and even stress relief. In this episode, life lessons from a death doula, who helps people at the end. Description: There seems to be one clear bug in the human operating system — most of us do not like talking about death. Yet when we do talk about it, it can genuinely upgrade the quality of our lives. Our guest today is Alua Arthur, a former attorney who is now what’s called a death doula, which is someone who helps guide people through the end of their lives. Through this work, she has learned some extraordinary stuff about how to live life right now. Alua is also the founder of Going with Grace, a death doula training and end-of-life planning organization. Her debut memoir, Briefly Perfectly Human: Making An Authentic Life By Getting Real About the End, will be released on April 16, 2024. This conversation took place at the 2023 TED Conference in Vancouver, immediately after Alua delivered her triumphant talk, which is out now. Special thanks to the TED Audio Collective. You can listen to Alua's talk and other TED talks on the TED Talks Daily podcast. In this episode we talk about: How death can be a powerful motivator How consistently being aware that you’re going to die can be a “stress reliever” The utility of imagining your ideal death Her view on reincarnation How the concept of “healing” can sometimes be used as a weapon against ourselves The importance of not leaving things unsaid How “hope” at the end of life can sometimes be unhelpful What surprises her about death How her work helped her out of her depression The five steps that you should take when confronting your own death The harm that can sometimes result from too much medical intervention toward the end of life The often fraught relationship that vulnerable and marginalized people can have with the medical community The benefits of thinking about what version of yourself you want to meet on your deathbed The death meditation that she uses when working with people What to say and do when you are with somebody who is grieving And a practice she calls, “The dying things exercise” Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/Alua-Arthur-archive Where to find Alua Arthur online: Website: goingwithgrace.com Social Media: Twitter Facebook Instagram YouTube Book Mentioned: Briefly Perfectly Human: Making An Authentic Life by Getting Real About the End Other Resources Mentioned: Link to Alua’s TED talk Link to Dan’s TED talk Gail Ruben Glennon Doyle Atīśa Dīpaṃkara Śrījñāna Roshi Joan Halifax Larry Rosenberg Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

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Folge vom 10.04.2024How Thinking About Death Can Improve Your Life | Alua Arthur
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Folge vom 08.04.2024The Science Of Building The Life You Want | Arthur BrooksNew episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Professor and writer Arthur Brooks on his recent book (co-authored with Oprah Winfrey): Build The Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier. Arthur has seen the themes of this book play out in his own life. He started his career as a classical French horn player, then got his PhD in public policy analysis, and went on to run a think tank called the American Enterprise Institute. He is currently a professor at the Harvard Kennedy School and Harvard Business School. He also does work with The Atlantic, where he writes a column and hosts a podcast called How to Build a Happy Life. Arthur was formerly on Ten Percent Happier to discuss his book From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. In this episode we talk about: Myth busting about happiness The three macronutrients of happiness The perils of pursuing pleasure How to be effectively and wisely ambitious How to ascertain if you have meaning in your life How to manage your emotions The difference between healthy and unhealthy envy Related Episodes: The Good News About Your Inevitable Decline | Arthur Brooks Why Dwight from The Office (Rainn Wilson) Is Calling for a “Spiritual Revolution” The Upsides And Downsides Of Living A More Examined Life | Matt Harris Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/arthur-brooks-754
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Folge vom 03.04.2024Myths Of Love, Sex, Dating, And Relationships | Myisha BattleNew episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- How our false expectations and misunderstandings about relationships can create an incalculable amount of suffering — and the many problems of the "You complete me" model. Description: This episode was part one of our four-part series where we’re counter-programming against the way Valentine’s Day is often celebrated, and examining different kinds of relationships including romantic, friendship, and family. Today’s guest hews a bit more closely to the traditional Valentine’s Day theme and will do some myth-busting around all the things we tend to get wrong when we talk about romantic relationships. Myisha Battle is the author of the book, “This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between.” She also hosts the podcast How’s Your Sex Life? Much of her public work focuses on the early stages of relationships, but in her private practice, she counsels people at all stages, and in all kinds of relationships. Content Warning: Explicit language and conversations about sex. In this episode we talk about: Five ways to improve intimacy and connection in romantic partnership The nuts and bolts of sex, and how we often get intimacy and sex confused in unhelpful ways Understanding men’s and women’s cycles to depersonalize issues in sex and relationships The myth of finding “the one” The orgasm gap Bromance And if you’re looking, tips on how to make finding a partner easier Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/myisha-battle-archive Where to find Myisha Battle online: Website: www.myishabattle.com/ Social Media: Twitter: @MyishaBattle Instagram: @MyishaBattle Book Mentioned: This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between Other Resources Mentioned: Alain de Botton’s Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person The School of Life #418. How Not to Ruin Your Relationships | Drs. John & Julie Gottman #213: Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel #464. How to Keep Friendships From Imploding | Esther Perel Half the World Has a Clitoris. Why Don’t Doctors Study It? Michael Vincent Miller’s Intimate Terrorism Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install
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Folge vom 01.04.2024Modern Life Is Making You Sick, But It Doesn’t Have To | Dr. Gabor MatéNew episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Hidden sources of stress — and how to beat them. Also: the myth of normal, the necessity of being disillusioned, and the disutility of comparing your suffering. Description: There’s so much to be grateful for in modern medicine. We can all agree that we would not do as well in a world with no Advil or dentistry. And yet, our guest today, who is a renowned doctor, says modern medicine is overlooking something crucial: the pernicious impact that modern living has on our minds and bodies. In other words, we are surrounded by these hidden societal and structural sources of stress and we aren’t thinking about how to treat and prevent these factors that are degrading our happiness and our immune systems. Dr. Gabor Maté is a bestselling author with an expertise on everything from stress to addiction to ADHD. His latest book is called, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture Content Warning: This episode has mentions of child abuse, sexual trauma, suicide and addiction In this episode we talk about: What he means by “the myth of normal” How diseases, such as autoimmune conditions, are an “artifact of civilization” How to begin to tackle what Dr. Maté calls, “the social sources of illness” His definition of trauma and the difference between “big T traumatic events” and the trauma of “wounding” How trauma in society is so normalized that we don’t even recognize it Whether the term trauma is overused Why comparing suffering is a fruitless endeavor What he means by “the necessity to be disillusioned” The power and possibility of psychedelics Why he thinks we should incorporate shamanic medicine into our western medical framework And what he means by “undoing self-limiting beliefs” and how these beliefs show up in our everyday lives Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/gabor-mate-archive Where to find Gabor Maté online: Website: drgabormate.com Social Media: Twitter Facebook Instagram YouTube Books Mentioned: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers Other Resources Mentioned: The Wisdom of Trauma Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Is Associated with Increased Risk of Ovarian Cancer: A Prospective and Retrospective Longitudinal Cohort Study Decrease in depression symptoms is associated with longer survival in patients with metastatic breast cancer: a secondary analysis Marital Status, Marital Strain, and Risk of Coronary Heart Disease or Total Mortality: The Framingham Offspring Study George Engel How spanking may affect brain development in children The Trauma of Everyday Life by Dr. Mark Epstein IntraConnected: MWe (Me + We) as the Integration of Self, Identity, and Belonging by Dr. Dan Siegel A. H. Almaas Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install